Steps to Prevent Divorce

Many Couples who are struggling in their marriage would prefer to work things out rather than get a divorce. They are typically desperate to do anything they have to do in order to prevent divorce from occurring at all. However, divorce may seem like the best method of relief should things get really bad. It may seem like  the easiest way to get rid of the problem!  However, it will become evident that divorce is not that simple. The process itself can take a long while to complete. It can drain the couple physically and emotionally, and often takes a financial toll on those involved as well. If there are children involved, a divorce can be traumatic for them. For these reasons, it is usually better to try to prevent divorce if you believe even in the least little bit that your marriage is worth saving. Be sure to continue reading this article for beneficial tips if you have had the possibility of divorce threaten your relationship.

Preventing Divorce is a win-win situation

Keep in mind that it is you that will need to put these suggestions into effect for them to help. You cannot expect your spouse to be the first person to change. It should be up to you. These attempts should be seen as a win-win situation for you. Either your spouse will see the differences and respond in a positive manner, or the changes will help you be a better participant in a future relationship given that this one ends in divorce.

First of all, if you really wish to prevent divorce, you should stop disagreeing and arguing with your partner and begin agreeing instead. Avoid defending yourself or always trying to justify your words and actions that your spouse does not care for. Listen to your spouse and agree with any truths you find! Being in agreement can be surprising to your partner. Additionally, it may defuse the disagreement and allow your spouse to achieve a state of mind to be  more susceptible to constructive criticism.

Here’s an example. If your spouse mentions that you constantly gripe and nag, the possibility is high that there is some truth to that statement. Rather than reacting negatively, you should acknowledge the fact that you may sometimes nag. You can say something like, “Ok, I agree, I probably do sound like I am nagging when I am angry and feel that you are not listening.” This statement can cause your spouse to cool down, as they realize you are listening to them and taking ownership of your actions. These two techniques are beneficial when trying to prevent divorce.

Another way to prevent divorce is to lighten up on your end.

It may be difficult, but it will be effective. When couples are close to divorce, each conversation can be full of tension. Sometimes, one person will halt conversation with the other just to avoid the emotional drainage that occurs. If you are able to keep conversations light and positive, you will find that it can greatly benefit your relationship by defusing the heated arguments that are so frequent.

A third way to prevent divorce is to take some time and think about how your actions and words are contributing to the negative issues surrounding your marriage. It is very easy and common for each person in the relationship to blame the other for the problems. However, it is never one person who is entirely at fault – both parties are usually equally responsible in creating the problems. Take note of your problems and allow your partner to read the list. This may mean you have to swallow your pride, but it will help to prevent divorce by stopping the conflict. If your spouse begins to see that you take ownership of your mistakes, he or she may start to see things in a more positive manner and become more willing to work on the marriage with you. Once you have opened the doors of communication, you can start to wade through the conflict and repair your relationship.
These are just a few suggestions to help prevent divorce, but they can make a huge impact. Avoid waiting for your spouse to take the initiative – begin yourself and you may be amazed at the results!